The Perfectionist - Conclusion
With these two dramas in my head, I started to formulate some Outward-Bound-School-type of plans for Kakak. She's going to start her primary years soon. I have to think of something to make my girl loosen up a little bit. I don't think we pressure her in any way to win in everything she does. Her perfectionist nature was actually spotted when I bought her some writing books. The book would have dotted lines for the child to follow to write a letter. When she first tried that book, she could not get the lines straight. Normal. I don't think any kid would get perfect lines. She decided to quit, since she could not get the lines straight. At that time, she was almost 4.
At first I took it as first-timer experience and disregard it. When she started her kindy at the age of 4, the same thing happen. The first day was OK. The second and next consecutive days until the end of the week, she didn't want to go to school. Risik punya risik, the teacher actually asked the children to start writing ABC's using the dotted lines method. That's when she decided not to attend school because she could not make the lines straight.
Same like the party games. I think she cannot take the uncalculated anticipation of the games outcome. She cannot NOT WIN. It's OK if it was a group's thing. But when it comes to being an individual, she chickened out, if she calculated that she cannot win. Now my brains are all busy looking for ways to slowly expose her and loosen her up in the process. And also teach her about the sports spirit.
I know she's not a quitter, she's the PERFECTIONIST.
At first I took it as first-timer experience and disregard it. When she started her kindy at the age of 4, the same thing happen. The first day was OK. The second and next consecutive days until the end of the week, she didn't want to go to school. Risik punya risik, the teacher actually asked the children to start writing ABC's using the dotted lines method. That's when she decided not to attend school because she could not make the lines straight.
Same like the party games. I think she cannot take the uncalculated anticipation of the games outcome. She cannot NOT WIN. It's OK if it was a group's thing. But when it comes to being an individual, she chickened out, if she calculated that she cannot win. Now my brains are all busy looking for ways to slowly expose her and loosen her up in the process. And also teach her about the sports spirit.
I know she's not a quitter, she's the PERFECTIONIST.
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